Thursday, January 29, 2015

Adoption Update: Fall Through #2

The Emotions of an Adoption Fall Through - Trust in God's Plan - Philippians 4:6-7, 13 - www.sweetlittleonesblog.com


The last few weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions.

It's now fairly clear that our match with the mother due with twins has fallen through.  (There is still a very slim chance she may place, but it is highly unlikely.)

Right now, we are grieving the loss of these babies.  We've dreamed about these two and pictured them in our family.  We gave them names and started getting the house ready for them.  The kids know about them and have already begun to love them too.  But it was not meant to be.

With every adoption, one thing we always pray for is whatever is best for the baby.  Even if that means it is not with us.  It's such a hard thing to pray for and truly want....because ultimately, in our hearts we want this baby/these babies to come home with us.  But in the end, we know God's plan is best.  And no matter how hard it is sometimes, we cling on to that truth with everything inside of us.

We are sad about the loss, but we know God loves us and has the perfect little one out there who was always meant to be in our family.  He's proven it so many times before - just like what happened with our adoption of B - and we know He will do it again.  

The Emotions of an Adoption Fall Through - Trust in God's Plan - Philippians 4:6-7, 13 - www.sweetlittleonesblog.com
B's little hand...he was always meant to be with us!

I know that for some reason, we were meant to cross paths with this mother.  And who knows why?  Maybe it was so that we would always keep her in our prayers.  We will probably never know in this life.  But He has a reason and purpose for everything, including every difficulty we face.

We will be ok in the end.  It's just hard when we're first going through it.  So will you please keep these 5 intentions in your prayers?: 


Pray for the agency for wisdom and guidance in their counseling.

Pray for our future birthmother for peace, strength, and guidance.

Pray for our future baby for whatever is best for him/her and for his/her health.

Pray for my family for peace and strength and that we trust in God's will.

Pray for the mother of the twins and for her babies for peace, strength, and God's grace.


Your prayers truly matter and have already helped us all more than you know.

I think my favorite part about blogging so far has been the tremendous support and prayer cover we have received from all of you.  You are all truly amazing.  Thank you.  We greatly appreciate your continued prayers for us and all of our intentions, especially during this difficult time.

God bless you, my friends,

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Edit (3/30/15):  We now have a son!  You can read more about his whirlwind adoption here!

46 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine. God is good and will undoubtedly bring you more blessings for your faithfulness.

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  2. Hugs and prayers for you and your family during this time and continued prayers for the road ahead.

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  3. I'm so sorry that things fell through, but I applaud your outlook even when it's not easy to do so. Thank you for the quote at the beginning of your post....I needed to read that this morning as well.

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  4. Oh Jessica. I don't even know what to say. You and the family will be in our prayers. I can't even begin to imagine the emotional toll this has on you.

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  5. that is so heartbreaking! Many thoughts and prayers to your family as you grieve this and open your hearts for another.

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  6. So sorry for your loss, sweet lady. That quote is one of my favorites to turn to when life gets me down. I will be praying for all involved.

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  7. You will absolutely be in my prayers. I can't imagine how hard that kinda' news it, but thank goodness for a God who has the ultimate plan!!

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  8. Praying for your family. I'm so sorry for your loss and will continue to pray for new doors to be opened for your family to adopt.

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  9. Hi Jess - I found your blog in the linkup and wanted to let you know I'll pray! I was an adoption social worker in Boston for 5 years at a domestic agency that placed newborns. It was the best job but the most emotional thing ever. I felt every emotion that all of my couples felt and fall throughs were the WORST! I hated having to tell couples the bad news. I literally had to stop doing the job b/c as much as I loved it I was feeling so stressed from it! I think adoption is amazing and I love that I'm a part of so many families stories. It is such a special gift and you are truly amazing to be praying for what is right for the baby/babies. I agree that God always has a plan and I hope he guides the pregnant woman to do what is best for her - whatever that may be. I look forward to following your journey! Jodi

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  10. I'm so sorry to hear this update. Sending huge prayers to all of you and the babies. It is so hard to wait for God's time, but it will come.

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  11. Praying for peace and for the whole situation!

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  12. Definitely joining you in prayer. I love the scripture you've shared, too. Lifting you and your family up!

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  13. Thank you so much! My husband brought up that scripture when we first found out, and that's what's really helping me stay positive. Thanks again, my friend! -Jess

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  14. I know what you mean...thank goodness for an amazing God who has a wonderful plan for us! Sometimes you gave to go through some hardships to get there though. But we need to remember He still lives us and it all happens for a reason. Sometimes I have to remind myself that. Thanks for the prayers! -Jess

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  15. Thank you so much! We greatly appreciate your prayers for all of us! -Jesd

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  16. Thank you so much, Monica! I think the hardest part is our daughter understanding more of what's going on. And I was very confident so I didn't guard my heart like I usually do. But we're definitely all doing better since we got the news earlier this week. I know it's from the prayers from all of our family and friends. Thanks, Monica!
    -Jess
    P.S. Looking forward to seeing wedding pics :)

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  17. Thank you so much, Beth! Your prayers have helped us tremendously already! -Jess

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  18. Thank you, Kristy! We know His plan for us is best even if it's a hard road to get there. -Jess

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  19. Thank you so much! That is an excellent verse. Thank you. We know this will be all worth it in the end when we bring our baby home :) -Jess

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  20. Thank you, Jodi! I think about the ladies at our agency all the time. I can't imagine how hard it is, but so very important too. Thank you for the time you spent doing it - blessing the birthmothers, babies, and adoptive families beyond measure! And thank you for your prayers for all of us too! This will all be worth it in the end when we bring our baby home :) -Jess

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  21. Thank you! My husband brought out that verse when we first found out and it's really been helping me stay positive. -Jess

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  22. Thank you, Whitney! Your prayers mean so much! -Jess

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  23. Thank you so much! Sometimes it's hard to trust in His plan, but we know it's best and will happen at the perfect time. -Jess

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  24. Thank you, Jenn. I'll be praying for you as well for whatever your intentions are. So glad we can all be prayer warriors for one another. -Jess

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  25. Hello. I found your blog through Friday Favorite link ups. I wanted to say that my husband and I have been there as well. We had two failed matches before we were blessed with our little girl. The emotional toll truly is hard, but I pray your strength and your comfort. Continue to trust God. Remember to cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you. He will never let the righteous fall. (Psalms 55:22). Prayers for you and your family!

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  26. Prayers are with you and your family during this time. Thank you for sharing that scripture verse. It's always a nice reminder that all of us can use and remember to trust in God and his plan. Your positive attitude is so encouraging and He definitely has a plan for you and your family.

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  27. So many prayers for you. God is good, and I think it's knowing that truth brings us comfort.

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  28. That is so true. That is what gets me through anything difficult like this...God is good and loves us so much! Thank you, Astleigh! -Jess

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  29. Thank you so much! We are definitely doing better. It's just so hard at first. Thank you. -Jess

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  30. Thank you so much! My husband read me that verse right after we got the news, and it has really been helping me stay focused how much He cares for us. Thanks again for your prayers! -Jess

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  31. I'm so sorry to hear this news, and our family will definitely keep yours in our prayers (all 5 of those intentions, too!). I know it hurts to not only live through the bad news, but also to share it. However, your faith in God and His plan is truly inspiring.

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  32. Your are in my thoughts and prayers. May time heal and may the peace of God (only His peace is able to) give you hope. May you know that your waiting is not in vain. Your waiting brings so much. It brings growth and a deeper relationship with our Lord. Waiting is hard, and even though it is "worth it" in the end - the middle feels hard. Prayers friend!

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  33. I cannot imagine the confusion this process brings, but trusting God is all that truly matters. Love the image of the Philippians verses, that has been my mantra many a circumstance. God is always better, he has the plans- cling to Him certainly how you are. Hebrews 6:19 says, "We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain," This verse is a meaningful one to my sis-in-law going through the foster-in hopes of adoption process- hope it finds you well! Praying for your sweet family-

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  34. Hugs and prayers for you, dear friend <3

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  35. So sorry to hear this! Will pray for your and your family during this time!

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  36. Thank you so much, Cat! Especially for your prayers. We are definitely feeling better about it...and we know it's because of the prayers and support from our family and friends! -Jess

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  37. Thanks, Sarah. Your words have really helped me...especially your recent lessons in waiting post. Thank you so much for your prayers, friend! I'm so glad we've connected...praying for your family and your adoption journey too! -Jess

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  38. Thank you so much, Emily! We greatly appreciate it! -Jess

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  39. Thank you so much for your prayers! We are so grateful! -Jess

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  40. Natalie, thank you for sharing that! That really helps a lot! And thank you for the prayers!!! They mean so much to us. -Jess

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  41. I'm so sorry to hear about this. I've struggled so much to have a child and have experienced losing two. I know our situations are different but in ways a lot similar.

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  42. We will be praying for your family! Adoption has always been something on our hearts, so you will especially be on my mind.

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  43. Thank you, Nakisha. I'm so sorry about your losses. I don't know exactly how you feel, but I think you're right that we've gone through something similar. Praying for you, friend!!! -Jesd

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  44. Thank you, Caitlin! It can be a bumpy road, but it's so worth it in the end! Praying for your family as you decide if you're being called to adoption! Thank you for the prayers! -Jess

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  45. I can not imagine the feelings this brings - so thankful we can trust that God is good...even when we are unable to understand His plan. Much Love, sweet friend~

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