Wednesday, May 28, 2014

3 Things in 3 Years

May is a fun month of celebrations in our house. Today we are celebrating my husband's golden birthday - 28 years old on the 28th! We both had to work, but made up for time apart with cake and ice cream. Now we are wondering if we'll be adding another birthday this month, or if our little man will keep us waiting until June. ;)

The other major celebration is our wedding anniversary, which was two weeks ago on May 14th. The day we got married, we both were covered in poison ivy (thanks a lot, yard work!) and we got about ten inches of rain during our reception. But, it was seriously the BEST day. We both had so much fun with our friends and family, it was hard to call an end to the day. I'm so blessed to have such a fun husband, and thought I'd share three things that I've learned in the three years I've been married.

First thing - be thankful. Thank God every day for the spouse he has given you - even more on the days that are hard. Thank your spouse for things they do for you, your family, friends, etc. I like being appreciated by my husband - especially for everyday tasks, like making dinner - it makes you feel good when you are noticed.

Second thing - remember people change. In 3 years, we became homeowners, had my sister live with us, gone through two pregnancies, John went to grad school and graduated, and now I'm becoming a SAHM. That's a lot of major life changes! We weren't expecting them all, and they have molded us to new people. I'm not the same person I was when we got married - which isn't a bad thing! Just remember that your spouse isn't either and be willing to accept new quirks, jobs, etc. 

Third thing - let it go. Are you singing something from Frozen right now? :) This is the best advice I heard before I got married. Our office was at a team building conference and the speaker was talking about something that his wife did that drove him crazy. She had always left her spoon on the counter after stirring her coffee. It drove him nuts that she wouldn't put it in the dishwasher. After awhile, he realized it wasn't that big of deal, and it was something that reminded him daily that his wife was alive. He said he knew he'd be sad the day that spoon wouldn't be there because it meant she wasn't there anymore. It's all about perspective. Let the small things, like a spoon being left out, go. In the long run, they aren't important and not worth fighting over.

I'm definitely no love expert (can you tell we're on a Frozen kick here?), and I know I have a lot to learn and grow in making my marriage last. I'm just glad I have such an awesome partner to have along the way!

Any marriage advice to share?

Happy Wednesday!

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