However, did you know that anger is a validated emotion from God? If you've always been under the assumption that your anger is wrong, I'd like to invite you to take a second look.
Anger can spur us to good works
Anger in and of itself is not wrong - even God experiences anger. The Bible is full of instances where the children of Israel received justly due punishment for sin due to God's righteous indignation.
Anger can propel us to act for justice, protect the innocent, and fight for equal rights. Anger over losing a child as a result of a drunk driver spurred one mom to found MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Drivers), and anger over the murder of innocent unborn children triggered the Right to Life movement.
Anger over the injustice of child abuse impelled me to begin seeking ways to help moms deal positively with their anger.
Anger was given to us by God to act in positive ways against wrongfulness.
When you are angry at your children because of their disobedience or unfair treatment towards siblings, that is validated. God wants you to use your anger to set things right.
So yes. Correct your children, right the wrongs, do not put up with bad behavior!
However - anger turned to wrath is what gets us into trouble! Erupting all over the family, screaming, yelling, hurting with words, or even worse, harming your children, is wrong.
Anger must be Spirit-controlled
This is where the fruit of the Spirit - self control - comes into play. And in order to develop the fruits of the Spirit, we must be walking in the Spirit and abiding with Christ.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control... If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23, 25 (ESV)
Take time to abide today. Read Scripture, pray, and maintain an attitude of prayer. Pray for discernment when your anger is sparked due to the wrongful behavior of your children. Post Scripture throughout your home where you'll see the reminders often (window sills, bathrooms mirrors, etc.). Even if you only have a few minutes to meet with the Lord, it is still very necessary and goes a long way toward building positive behavioral habits.
Anger shows our priorities
What we make time for shows our priorities. Do you have time for Facebook? Instagram? Exercise? Eating? Make time for God in your life and you will experience real, meaningful changes!
We must fight sinful behavior with our most valuable weapon - God's Word and prayer.
Here is a verse for your window sill (and your memory)!
Rash language cuts and maims, but there is healing in the words of the wise. Proverbs 12:18
The next time your anger is sparked, use it to craft wise words of healing and correction. God will help you!
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How do I know? I teach this method to a group of moms, and they are seeing the wins by overcoming wrath-induced anger and instead, steering anger in positive directions!
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Ruthie Gray is a wife, mom of four, Gigi, and caregiver, living in the sandwich generation and blogging to keep her sanity. When she's not snacking on plastic drumsticks with her grandson (The Tiny Tornado), or snuggling his sister (Baby Cakes), you can find her coaching other moms on how to raise responsible kids and enjoy them at Rear. Release. Regroup. and Mom Time Out. You can also connect with Ruthie on Facebook.
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